tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6995740091731516198.post7158761416307921626..comments2023-03-31T03:16:56.760-07:00Comments on A Witty Mess: Aaaaaaaand.....Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00973952411546982591noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6995740091731516198.post-72966215677245275332010-01-28T08:01:21.837-08:002010-01-28T08:01:21.837-08:00GIRL I know how that feels. Before John left "...GIRL I know how that feels. Before John left "happy" was the only emotion I was allowed to feel. Becuase otherwise he'd get even more worried and anxious, and I knew he needed my support. Now, that didn't STOP me from being depressed and sad, and sometimes I showed a little bit of it, but I think thats a part of love that we need to develop. Yea, I'm totally with you. It sucks he hasn't written an effing thing. And, believe me I respect you for holding up this long. But now he's gone, and youre ALLOWED to freak out. It's expected. I still say write him a little note explaining calmly how you need to hear from him, because you're about to murder the next child you see... well don't go that far but you get my drift. One thing John set up for me to do(because he warned that it would be really unfair for me for a while, and he appologized beforehand) was he started a note in my phone with "Enduring in faith includes..." and he told me everytime I was depressed or sad, to add something to that list. It's now 20 bullets long, and i re-read that when I need to. One of them is "Being there for him when he can't be there for me" Thats love: being frustrated with the situation, but doing it because you love them. <br />It also helps to talk about them. Pull out your phone, and record yourself just talking. Talk it out. Say anything that is on your mind, crying or calm. Even talk to HIM. But it really helps.<br /><br />WOW long comment... lol. Hope this helps, Love! HANG IN THERE!!Jessica-LEEhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01789269321437505530noreply@blogger.com